Wedding Weather (And why you can't stress over it)

About a week ago, we were out and it started to rain. And I got nervous. It was a Friday night and I was hoping that in three Friday nights, it wouldn't repeat. See, three weeks from that day is our rehearsal dinner. We rented a park and I would hate for it to rain.

But a ten-day forecast doesn't show three weeks out, so I said a prayer and forgot about the weather.

Today, my friend Dan sent me a text: Lisa does it always rain by you?

So I checked the weather.

Uhhh ... that looks bad. Really bad.

We live in an area where there's always a chance of rain, but it doesn't rain often. Right now, I'm looking outside at a completely gray sky. It looks like the rain is going to start flowing at any minute.

At first when my friend mentioned the weather, I got nervous. Our reception is at the beach and we are paying top dollar for a beach venue. Almost all our guests are coming from New York and we want them to experience the beach. But if there's a thunderstorm, they just can't.

But, no matter how much I hope and pray, I can't change the weather. It's going to do what it's going to do, and the weather doesn't care that I have a beach reception. The weather doesn't care that my dyed heels can't get wet. The weather doesn't care that I don't have an umbrella for all my bridesmaids to fit under. So I can't care either. If it rains, I'll keep singing that line from Ironic -- it's like rain on your wedding day (which is not ironic at all, and, ironically, the majority of the lines in that song aren't ironic either).

This is how you avoid being bridezilla. You stress over the things you have control over and can fix -- and you fix them. And you understand that there are things out of your control -- like wedding wedding -- and you disregard them.

The weather is gonna be what it's gonna be. And all you can do is pack an umbrella in the limo and hope your new groom is romantic enough to hold it over your head in case it does rain.

BRIDAL BABBLE: What other elements of wedding planning are out of your control and shouldn't be stressed over?